“We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.” ―
Dorothy Day
When I was researching a new place to live, one of the most
important things for me was to find a church to attend. For me, that would be a progressive United
Church of Christ. I knew that in moving to a new place where I had no friends
or relatives, I needed to find a community to become part of. A church sounded
like a good place to start.
Think about it, church memberships are made up of many
different demographics. Young, old, long time members, new to the congregation,
active and inactive participants. And as human beings, they will also have different
opinions, interests and backgrounds.
Using a church community to help you get acclimated is like
walking right into a “Google” store! And utilizing the Facebook “group” option,
gives you many different opinions at the same time! If I need something, all I
need to do is ask.
Bank or credit
union?
Where can I get a
good mani/pedi?
Is there a Trader
Joe’s nearby?
Target or
Walmart?
Best pizza
around? Who delivers?
Attending church regularly and joining the church’s Facebook
group has been a blessing. As a matter of fact, I joined the group on Facebook
as soon as I committed to moving to Charlotte.
The funny thing is, some people I met upon my arrival thought I had been
around longer as they had seen me and my comments online! (They welcomed me anyway!)
I’ve been here just about three weeks now and in many ways
it seems like longer. Because of the church, I have joined a yoga class and
will start Weight Watchers next week. I’ve been able to share my moving boxes
and packing materials with a member of the church who is moving from one home
to another. I’ve had lunch in a beautiful park with a group of retired members and
made plans to go to a Charlotte Knights minor league baseball game. I will join
another group this coming weekend to tour a Raptor Center and have BBQ
afterwards. A member is coming over tomorrow to do a few “handyman” chores for
me and I’ve gotten advice on job hunting and possible employment prospects.
If you move to a new town, joining a church may not best
serve your needs. But I do believe that finding a group of people who share a
common interest will help you acclimate to your new surroundings. A “community”
can be a knitting class, a softball team, a local theater group or even your
place of employment. Wherever you feel a
mutual bond with others, embrace the environment. Learn from it and let it help
you find your place in your new hometown! It has certainly helped me!!
Oh Lori, what a great post! You know, that's how I feel about my friends at the Bethel UMC. They are an extension of my community and are always there whenever someone needs them. I'm so thrilled your settling into your new home with such ease. I think the advice you give here is great and hope it helps someone else who may have recently moved to a new town.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sharon. Sounds like my post accomplished what I wanted it to!! :)
DeleteHi Lori! Glad to hear you found a "community" that helps you feel settled and happy in your new hometown. You're right, a church is definitely a good way to find people who share the same values as you. ~Kathy
ReplyDeleteThank you Kathy. Different things work for different people, but the idea remains the same!
DeleteIt's so true, Lori! When we moved to Edmonton 30 years ago, we didn't know a soul. But within hours of attending our first church service, our family was invited over for dinner. I was included in the women's group. Our children had new friends. And Husby had a group of husbands/fathers who were so welcoming and friendly. A neighbour across the street saw the sudden activity surrounding us and asked if we'd known anyone before we moved in. He'd been there for two years and still didn't know a single person! Finding a group that fits you is amazing!
ReplyDeleteThe nice thing is that it doesn't always need to be a church. It can be any place where you feel welcomed.
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